ACTING TOGETHER, WITH MUTUAL ENJOYMENT
What is Cooperation? You may find different definitions, like pursuing the same goal, helping each other or following rules and requests by others. Feel free to believe in the one that resonate with you most. We compared many of them and the one we understood was worth of spreading was the one based on mutual enjoyment: "Cooperation is acting together neutrally with mutual enjoyment."
FEELING GOOD TOGETHER
Cooperation is not only an action, but also a feeling. It's like when we prepare a dinner together with friends, and everybody brings some food for the common dinner: you feel good because of the company while everybody enjoys the meal because of the different foods. It's diffrent, instead, when you compete in a market and someone loses, you're not neutral. At the same time, when you are driven by a noble altruism and help someone, again, it's not a cooperation. It's called altruism: someone in the interaction gets more than you and you are okay with it.
Also alliances against a third party don't represent a cooperation: people in mafia help each other, but at the expenses of someone else. Cooperation is therefore a balance of egoism and altruism, in which everybody enjoys the interaction.
AWARENESS AND COMPETITION
Even better, cooperation is being aware of complexity. If you're linear, you go directly to what you want, in a careless way. You may resemble a very selfish man, a ruthless businessman, ending up with no advantages once his reputation is gone and he lost all of his firends. Another example of linearity could be behaving as a profound altruist person, but lacking self respect, thus even being poorly effective in helping.
When your intentions embrace complexity instead, you start considering many perspectives, including others, yourself and the environment. You coordinate the diverse perspectives and your actions gain awareness. An aware competition may paradoxically transform itself in a enjoyable cooperation.
Feel free to proceed in this learning area of the website. Cycle through the conditions of cooperation: Equivalence, Trust, Care, Transparency, Freedom, Understanding, Diversity. If you desire a better comprehension, join Cooperacy and participate to the online webinars, free for every member.